11 Wise Words That Help You Reflect on Life
The wise words that most genuinely help you reflect on life are not the ones that tell you what to think about it or offer the definitive verdict on what the life most essentially is. They are the ones that open a specific space in which the thinking becomes more honest, more precise, and more available to the person doing it than it was before the words arrived: the words that land in the specific, particular way that the right words land at the right moment of the life’s development, naming something true about the experience that the unnamed version of the same experience had been less available to the genuine examination of.
These 11 wise words are chosen for the specific quality of the life-reflection they most directly invite. Each one is followed by the reflection on what makes it specifically useful for the life-examination that the wise words are most essentially in the service of. Read them with the current moment of the life in mind. The ones that most specifically name what the current moment most needs the reflection on are the ones most worth writing down and sitting with after the reading.
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Get the Free Self-Care Starter Kit1. The purpose of life is a life of purpose. — Robert Byrne
“The wise words that most genuinely help you reflect on life are not the ones that tell you what to think about it. They are the ones that open a specific space in which the thinking becomes more honest, more precise, and more available than it was before the words arrived.”
This wise words entry from Robert Byrne carries the specific, recursive truth about the life most worth reflecting on: the life that has found the purpose that makes the living of it the living-of-a-purpose rather than the living-through-the-days that the purposeless life most consistently produces. The reflection it invites is the specific, honest examination of whether the life currently being lived is the life of the purpose or the life waiting for the purpose to arrive before the purposeful living begins. The purpose is not the found artifact. It is the built, chosen, practiced orientation toward what the life is most essentially for. The reflection on the life most directly reveals whether the purpose is being lived or being waited for. What is the life currently most essentially for?
2. In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. — Abraham Lincoln
This wise words entry from Abraham Lincoln carries the specific quality indicator for the life most worth reflecting on: the life in the years rather than the years in the life. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest examination of whether the years being lived are being fully inhabited or only chronologically occupied: the difference between the year that was genuinely, presently, fully lived and the year that passed while the living was deferred to the next year when the conditions would be more favorable. How much life is in the current years? The Lincoln question is the most honest available measure of the life being lived from the inside. Reflect on it. The answer shapes the next year’s living.
3. What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. — Henry David Thoreau
“In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. How much life is in the current years? The Lincoln question is the most honest available measure of the life being lived from the inside. The answer shapes the next year’s living. Reflect on it now, while the years being lived are still the ones available for the living from the inside.”
This wise words entry from Thoreau carries the specific reorientation of the goal-achieving from the what-is-gotten to the who-is-become by the getting: the reflection on the goal most worth the pursuing is the reflection that honestly examines what the person is becoming through the pursuing rather than only what the person is accumulating from the achievement of the goal. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest examination of the current goals from the becoming-perspective: what kind of person does the consistent pursuit of these specific goals most essentially produce? Is the becoming that the goal-pursuing produces the becoming most worth the effort the pursuing requires? The goal is the means. The becoming is the end. Reflect on whether the means is producing the end worth becoming.
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Visit Premier Print Works4. Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards. — Søren Kierkegaard
This wise words entry from Kierkegaard carries the specific, honest tension at the center of the life-reflection: the life is most clearly understood from the backward look and most essentially required to be lived from the forward movement, and the living of it forwards produces the material that only the understanding backwards most accurately illuminates. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the specific, backward-looking examination of the forward-lived experiences that the current position makes available as the retrospective understanding: what does the backward look at the life lived so far reveal about the direction the forward living has been most essentially pointing in? The understanding backwards is the gift the reflection gives the living forwards. Use the retrospective to illuminate the prospective. The backward understanding is in the service of the forward living.
5. We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are. — Anaïs Nin
This wise words entry from Anaïs Nin carries the specific, humbling truth about the nature of the perception that the life-reflection most essentially requires the honesty to acknowledge: the seeing is not the objective registering of the things as they are but the specific, subjective, self-shaped perception of the things as the self most currently is. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest examination of the current seeing: what does the current perception of the life, the relationships, the possibilities, and the limitations most reveal about the current state of the self that is doing the seeing? The perception is the mirror. The reflection is the honest looking at what the mirror reveals about the perceiver rather than only the perceived. We see as we are. What does the current seeing reveal about the current being?
6. The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. — Nelson Mandela
“We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are. The perception is the mirror. The honest reflection is the looking at what the mirror reveals about the perceiver rather than only the perceived. What does the current seeing of the life, the relationships, and the possibilities reveal about the current state of the self that is doing the seeing?”
This wise words entry from Nelson Mandela carries the specific alternative measure of the life’s glory that the never-falling standard most consistently fails to provide for any life actually lived: the rising every time we fall. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest inventory of the risings: not the celebration of the never-fallen position that the life most honestly cannot claim, but the specific, honest accounting of the number of the times fallen and risen that the life actually contains and that most accurately measures the specific, available glory that the Mandela definition most directly honors. Count the risings. The glory is in the counting of them rather than the pretending of the never-falling. The life that has risen many times from the falling is the life most honestly rich in the Mandela glory.
7. The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. — Mark Twain
This wise words entry from Mark Twain carries the specific, essential life-reflection question that the life most worth living most essentially requires the answering of: the why. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest, specific examination of whether the why has been found, how clearly it is currently held, and how directly the daily living is aligned with the why that the finding-out has produced. The born-day is given. The why-day is found, or built, or continuously refined through the life most honestly examined. Have you found the why? Is the daily living serving it? Is the why you currently hold the one most honestly aligned with the life you most essentially want to be living? The Twain question is the most important available life-reflection question. Sit with it.
8. Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans. — John Lennon
“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. The why-day is found, or built, or continuously refined through the life most honestly examined. Is the daily living serving the why you currently hold? Is the why most honestly aligned with the life you most essentially want to be living?”
This wise words entry from John Lennon carries the specific, wry, compassionate truth about the relationship between the planning and the living that the life-reflection most honestly reveals: the life most actually happening is the life occurring in the present moments that the planning for the future is most consistently consuming rather than inhabiting. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest examination of the proportion of the actual daily living relative to the planning of the living: how much of the current daily life is the genuine, present, unplanned living of the life that is actually here, and how much is the planning for the life that will begin once the current planning has been completed? The life is happening right now. The reflection is the noticing of it.
9. You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. — Mae West
This wise words entry from Mae West carries the specific, direct challenge to the life-reflection that the doing-it-right standard most honestly presents: the once is enough if the once is done right. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest examination of what the doing-it-right most essentially means for the specific, particular, unrepeatable life currently being lived and whether the current living is the doing-it-right or the doing-it-by-default that the without-reflection life most consistently produces. The once is all there is. The right is the variable within the once. The reflection is the specific, honest examination of whether the living of the once is being done in the direction of the right for the specific person who has the once available. Reflect on the right. The once is already in progress.
10. The big lesson in life is never be scared of anyone or anything. — Frank Sinatra
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. The once is all there is. The right is the variable within the once. The reflection is the specific, honest examination of whether the living of the once is being done in the direction of the right for the specific person who has the once available to live it in.”
This wise words entry from Frank Sinatra carries the specific, direct life-lesson that the life-reflection most usefully examines from the position of the current living: the big lesson about the fear and the specific assessment of whether the fear has been running the life or the life has been running through the fear. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest inventory of the specific fears most currently limiting the living: the thing not said because the response was uncertain, the attempt not made because the failing was possible, the direction not taken because the outcome was unknown. The big lesson names the fear as the primary available obstacle to the fully-lived once. Where is the fear currently limiting the life? The reflection on this question is the beginning of the lesson’s application.
11. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. — Steve Jobs
This wise words entry from Steve Jobs closes the list with the one that most directly connects the life-reflection to the work-reflection that occupies the significant majority of the available waking hours of the daily life: the loving of what is done as the specific, available condition for the doing of the great work that the life most essentially produces from the working hours that constitute the majority of it. The reflection this wise saying most directly invites is the honest examination of whether the work being done is the work that is genuinely loved or the work that is adequately tolerated: the enormous difference between the two in the quality of the life that each most directly produces from the same available hours is the difference the loving most essentially makes. Love what you do. If the loving is not yet present, the reflection is the beginning of the honest examination of what the loving would most essentially require to find.
How Joel and Amara Each Found the Wise Words That Most Directly Opened the Life-Reflection the Current Season Had Been Most Needing
Joel had been in the specific pattern of the person whose life had been full of the goals and the achievements and most specifically short on the honest examination of whether the goals being achieved and the person being produced by the achieving were the goals and the becoming most genuinely worth the effort the achieving required. The wise words that opened the specific reflection the pattern had been preventing were the Thoreau ones: what you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become. The reorientation from the what-is-gotten to the who-is-become was the specific examination the achievement-focused orientation had been preventing by keeping the attention on the accumulation rather than the becoming. The honest examination of the becoming that the current goals were producing revealed the specific gap between the person the goals were building toward and the person the honest reflection most revealed as the one worth becoming. The goals have since been revised. Not abandoned. Revised in the direction of the becoming the honest reflection most accurately identified as the one worth the effort the revised goals now require. The Thoreau question was the entire examination the pattern had been avoiding. The avoidance has been addressed. The becoming is now the primary measure of the goal’s worth.
Amara’s wise words were the Kierkegaard ones: life can only be understood backwards but must be lived forwards. She had been in the specific disorientation of the person whose forward living had been most consistently interrupted by the backward-looking preoccupation with the past experiences that the understanding of them had not yet caught up to. The Kierkegaard formulation changed the relationship between the backward understanding and the forward living from the conflict into the collaboration: the backward understanding is the gift the reflection gives the forward living rather than the competing claim on the present that the preoccupation had been making it. The backward understanding of the past experiences was the service to the forward living rather than the distraction from it, when the understanding was being done in the service of the living rather than the substitute for it. She now practices the backward understanding in the specific, contained time of the journal and the reflection, rather than the continuous, uncontained preoccupation that the forward living had been competing with. The backward understanding serves the forward living. The Kierkegaard formulation named the relationship that the practice now honors.
The Life-Reflection These 11 Wise Words Are Inviting Is the Specific, Honest, Regularly Practiced Examination of the Life Being Lived That Makes the Living of It More Intentional, More Aligned, and More Genuinely Available to the Person Whose Life It Most Essentially Is.
The wise words that help you reflect on life are the words that most directly open the specific examination the life most needs: the purpose being lived, the life in the years, the becoming the goals are producing, the backward understanding in the service of the forward living, the seeing that reveals the seer, the glory in the rising, the why found or being found, the present life happening alongside the plans, the once being done as right as the honest reflection can make it, the fear as the big lesson named and examined, and the loving of the work as the condition for the great work the life most essentially produces. These eleven wise words are the specific, honest invitations to the life-reflection that the unreflected life most consistently avoids by remaining too busy for the examination that would most directly improve the life the busyness is building.
Find the two or three wise words on this list that most specifically name what the current moment of the life most needs the reflection on. Write the question they most directly invite. Sit with the question. Let the honest answer shape the next season of the living the reflection is most essentially in the service of. The wise words are the opening. The reflection is the walking through. The life is what is found on the other side of the honest walking through.
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